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Post by solomon on Dec 30, 2009 22:16:00 GMT
I have bought myself an xmas pressie, a lesson with a new instructor. I love my present instructor but feel we are no longer progressing greatly. I am reall looking forward to some new ideas. Then I will have a dilemma do I change? I will be asking you how to ditch an instructor nicely bit like the farrier post. These two instructors know each other but I hope are professional enough not to be a problem. My horse comes first and if it helps me to help him that is the way ahead.
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Post by fleabitten on Dec 30, 2009 22:21:49 GMT
That sounds good  Sorry have no advice on the dumping of instructors but i probably wouldnt ditch for good until youve tried the new one and made sure you like her/him. I just quit lessons by saying i wont be up next week (i think, i cant remember  ) and then eventually just never said i would be back but we stayed in touch and are still friends with her. I booked lessons with a different lady and she really helped me it was great. I think i could have done with lessons with her for longer than the initial 6 or so lessons though. Probably would do it along the same lines as was given for the farrier problem. |
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Post by brigadier on Dec 31, 2009 12:07:12 GMT
Dont dump her is my advice. If she asks simply say you feel you have reached a plateau at the moment and need a change to see if that gives you a bit of inspiration, that way when you feel you have reached a plateau (as we all do!) with your new trainer you can go back to your old one- (or find another) and see if your change has moved your relationship on.
Although Im a bit static at the moment I have definitely reached a plateau with mine, so have not been having lessons at the moment- its not to say I wont have some more but I may book a clinic or too elsewhere first- it keeps them on their toes- trust me Im an instructor and I would never criticise someone going to someone else- Ive recommended it on occasion when Ive got as far as I can with somone but thats not to say that when they progress a bit we cant pick up and move forward.
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Post by FirenLady on Dec 31, 2009 12:15:43 GMT
Thats interesting. We had two instructors at the RS one would coax you into doing stuff "C'mon give it a try, you can do it". The other is a bit more like "C'mon get on with it" (In a really good way). I like the contrast in thier teaching, they really complimented each other. The lessons were always challenging (but not too challeging) with both.One of them has left now and I'd like her to give me and Fire some lessons in Spring, cos it keeps you on your toes and one might notice what the other misses. I think the sign of good lessons is if you feel like you've achieved something at the end of it. (Or fail and show a load of weaknesses like I do sometimes ;D )
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Post by fimacg on Dec 31, 2009 14:30:39 GMT
I like to have a range of instructors, I have my normal one but given the opportunity I am off like a shot to see others, especially if they are very good ones or specialist clinics etc. I also find a fresh pair of eyes may push you further than your current instructor might, I find that as my normal one has seen me at my worst (of lost confidence) she wont push me too hard now when I actually need it.
As far as I am concerned I can't have enough exercises or inspiration. Don't ditch your old one but use whoever suits you best at that time, after all you are paying for a service.
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Sorry have no advice on the dumping of instructors but i probably wouldnt ditch for good until youve tried the new one and made sure you like her/him. I just quit lessons by saying i wont be up next week (i think, i cant remember 
) and then eventually just never said i would be back but we stayed in touch and are still friends with her. I booked lessons with a different lady and she really helped me it was great. I think i could have done with lessons with her for longer than the initial 6 or so lessons though. 
for so much hard work we thank ye!!
