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Post by brigadier on Jan 12, 2009 19:47:24 GMT
Granniesboy- your post intrigues me! I have a problem in that i can beat the world as long as there is somebody watching me (Im not a show off and not competitive) I think I feel that I let myself down if I dont show i can do it but if Im on my own I back off from doing things if they seem a little daunting. so for example Id never do a show jumping course if I was on my own schooling but if someone says, "can you get on and show me how to do it"- no problem and no nerves! I may try your approach and take the feeling that Im being watched and use it in situations where i would normally back off! Thanks!
I also think that having kids DOES seriously have an affect on nerves and confidence. theres more to lose and unless we ride for a living its no longer a necessity so biologically why should we do it? I think twice and thrice now in situations where I would have never given thought to previously.
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Post by ronansmum2 on Jan 14, 2009 10:50:57 GMT
Brig, that rings such a bell with me. Not that I am in your riding league or anything, but yes I can identify with that bit about being watched. When I am watched I do "try harder" as in use my legs more, think what I am doing with my hands more, get a bit braver and most importantly stop panicking.  I have a tendency to really panic if Ronan attempts (in my mind) to rear, but if I have company I will kick him on strongly and even raise my voice at him... The bit about kids is so right too, I wasn't riding when I had my son, only took it up again when he was 4 but there is no doubt, you do tend to think, "what if......" Even the practical things like "who will take him to school or wash his school clothes if I am laid up?" Granniesboy, I hope this is the turning point for you and your horsey, clearly you aren't nervous, maybe some visualisation or "pretend " will sort it.  Good luck... ;D |
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suzii
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Post by suzii on Jan 24, 2009 21:20:44 GMT
Sorry if this is a repeat as haven't read all posts (v rude of me i know!)
I find what inspires and motivates me the most when I am in a bit of a confidence rut, I find imagining in my head what I want to do and how great it would be etc is great. It makes me feel like I can do it and then leads me to think of things I could do to get me there.
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ptarmigan1
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Post by ptarmigan1 on Jan 31, 2009 19:17:20 GMT
confidence, confidence, confidence. Lets be honest, everyones excuse is.." i can't, I've lost my confidence", well thats my excuse anyway. But what is it we are really scared off...falling off? if so, we dont fall of easily over little jumps, even the biggest spooks on hacks! We 9 times out of 10, stay on...somehow So tell me what you are really scared of...it IS cureable!!! honest! It WILL turn out to be nothing...so come on...what are you scared of... Pm is you wish B&T xxx |
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for so much hard work we thank ye!!
I have a tendency to really panic if Ronan attempts (in my mind) to rear, but if I have company I will kick him on strongly and even raise my voice at him... 
