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Post by geegee on Mar 22, 2010 18:31:50 GMT
Hey - i dont post much on this forum, but i love reading what you guys get upto, anyhow, i really need your help... been going out with my boyfriend since new year, its all good...but he lies...all the time... about some serious stuff...and i went to talk to a teacher... and she got other teachers involved... and basically now my teachers are telling me to end it with him, and i want to too, so i tried to, and failed. half of me wants to stay with him... half of me doesn't... i also dont want to let my teachers, and friends down... any advice?  |
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Post by spotti on Mar 22, 2010 19:04:53 GMT
Hey Geegee, nice to chat to you  If you don't mind me asking, what kind of things does the guy lie about? If its serious things then that's a big issue, especially if you can no longer trust him, but if its something little or something that you think you can work through then it may be worth a try...but its up to you really hun. Whatever you decide, we'll back you all the way |
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Post by Blonde Donkey on Mar 22, 2010 19:41:27 GMT
Can I ask how old you are poppet. You can't be much younger than me. I went out with a prolific liar and when it all came out he was lying he as gone. I can't stand liars, there is no reason for it quite often (unless it's your boss then its fine  ). I think once a liar always a liar. |
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Post by florence on Mar 22, 2010 20:13:22 GMT
Is there a reason why he lies? Is he insecure? Unhappy with his life? If you can talk to him about it then you may be able to sort something out BUT it does sound like your teachers have your best interests at heart and if they know him they may well know things about him that you don't and that's why they're telling you to finish with him.
*modified as I appeared to be typing in Japanese!
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Post by brigadier on Mar 22, 2010 22:08:18 GMT
relationships are hard enough even if you completely trust someone, but if he lies to you then you cant trust him and without that you dont have a relationship. Sorry honey- I guess its not what you want to hear!
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Post by geegee on Mar 23, 2010 15:58:49 GMT
Hey, I'm 15 He lies about random stuff, it ranges from oh, my ex girlfriend is pregnant and it could be my baby" to "i went to see lily allen yesterday" sounds silly, but i have proof he's lieing, i do think he is insecure and unhappy with his life, but still... i told him it was over today, teachers' threatened to bring my mum in, and i dont get on with my mum so i couldnt let that happen, seemed to take it okay, though he told me he'd never find someone else etc, im quite embarrsed about how long it took me to realise it, and how almost everyone had to get involved before i did anything about it... thanks guys, i really needed someone's opinion who didnt know either of us, |
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Post by spotti on Mar 23, 2010 19:35:26 GMT
Good for you You're far too young for all that stress just yet! Just enjoy being a teenager and you can worry about relationships in a few years time... |
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Post by florence on Mar 23, 2010 21:12:18 GMT
You've done the right thing. I know it hurts, but part of becoming mature is making decisions and taking responsibility for yourself. Try not to look back.
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Post by mossh on Mar 24, 2010 23:10:03 GMT
i know its rubbish but its the best thing you could do.
At 15 you are far too young for that and I wish I'd realised that at 15!
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Post by babymare on Mar 25, 2010 18:03:13 GMT
Hun it toook me 2 years to face up to my relationship - started with lies and spiralled to far worst. To love some one there should be no lies (little white lies regading surprises are different ) just honesty cause if someone can lie they can do worst trust me hun so consider yourself grown up in realising the truth and wait for that mr right to come along - i did and yep think i have found mr right watch this space lol xxx |
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