babymare
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Post by babymare on Mar 13, 2010 1:52:03 GMT
I may have only known the guy ive been seeing for 3 months - though chatted by mail for 3 weeks before meeting(met on an on line dating thingy and boy did i meet some weird ones before tony trust me there are weird folk out there) - but do you know im smiling but so frightened - when first actually met yep there i was smart clothes , sexy jeans etc then my back went etc etc etc and basically bed ridden etc etc etc - for past 3 weeks he has driven over ( hour round trip) fetching me chocs (cigs cough cough dont really smoke to all our junior members) water,food etc etc and seen me with greasy hair, in pj's (living in them at mo) , no make up , drugged up on morphine etc etc etc and tonight when i said thank you for being so nice he said "youre worth it sweetheart " - after last 3 weeks dont know wether to laugh, cry,be happy,be scarred or what - and given my last relationship do I trust ? that started so good - but this guy he has had hard times been hurt - head pickled scared tired and just wanted to sound off - can you trust again after bad times( and mmmm were bad times to)  well im scared so scared so guys your thoughts i would gladly love to hear as well you all talk sense  |
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Post by dannyboy on Mar 13, 2010 10:47:13 GMT
relationships are a little like falling off a horse (or being catapulted) and getting back on and giving it another try - you have to grow in confidence and trust once again. This can take time to heal the hurt, both physically & mentally. Not a great analogy but you do have to learn to trust again hun and I think he sounds pretty genuine. Any man who would see me bed ridden and not at my best deserves a medal  You sound as if you are very fond of him? |
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Post by spotti on Mar 13, 2010 19:51:01 GMT
I like the analogy DB - the best thing to solve a confidence crisis with a horse is to get back in the game with help from a nice, gentle, confidence-giving neddy...the downside to trying this tactic with men is that your friends can't give you any recommendations and you can't swap to the less predictable one once your confidence has grown a bit! I guess the best thing is just to go with your gut feeling and if it feels right then do it, and if not then don't. This guy sounds nice and quite genuine, but take it slowly and your trust in him will grow with time Good luck hun! We all love you  |
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Post by florence on Mar 13, 2010 23:18:59 GMT
He sounds pretty genuine to me. Anyone who wasn't that interested would have given up quickly seeing the situation you're in but he's stuck around even after seeing you at your worst. It also sounds like you've pretty well made up your mind and are just looking for reassurance. Only you know when it's going to be right. I just know that if you don't take a risk you will never know. Life is full of ups and downs. If you never have any lows you can never fully appreciate the highs. He sounds like a good 'un. Good luck!  |
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babymare
Intermediate Sh*t Shoveller
My beautiful mare is worth more than riches
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Post by babymare on Mar 14, 2010 19:36:36 GMT
Thank you guys as always you talk such sense and reason. Yes I guess I have already started to think this guy is genuine and well just needed reassurance. Not seeing him tonight and I feel gutted - guess that says alot really doesnt it. Cheers guys xxxxx
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Post by jack on Mar 14, 2010 21:21:25 GMT
as i do know what you are likly to look like on your meds and how much pain you have been if that hasnt scared him off i think he is in for the long haul bless him
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Post by brigadier on Mar 15, 2010 8:50:57 GMT
There are some real prats out there and some real good guys too, and I think you have to have your fair share of prats before you find the good one. But the thing is- if you treated all men like potential prats then they would probably turn out that way, so treat them all like good guys and you will find the one, yes your heart may get a bit battered (and more resilient too) but at least whent he right one comes along you will know it. This guy is certainly going the right way, so although its early days its positive, and its heart warming he has looked after you.
I knew it was real for me when my other half cycled miles to get me oxtail soup when I was unwell. The good ones dont just say it- they do it!
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Post by solomon on Mar 15, 2010 10:28:53 GMT
He sounds lovely but two thoughts pop into my head if you think he might be 'the one' first give it time people can make an effort for a few weeks or months but eventually if it is an effort it will change. Also does your tummy turn over when you see him? There has to be a 'spark' no matter how kind he is otherwise you will be the one walking away. There is definitely someone for everyone! Good luck, I hope it works out.
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babymare
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Post by babymare on Mar 25, 2010 18:05:59 GMT
awww brig re oxtail soup thats so sweet
Yes solomon my tummy flips when i talk on phone and does back flips when I see him - only time will tell and we both want to take it slow though major test is 6 days away together on his boat at easter so mmmmmm watch this space
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