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Post by Jen on Nov 6, 2008 0:26:58 GMT
i cannot physically cope with college blossom and work, both timewise and financially. i cant give up work as it is my only real source of income, i cant give up college as i am having the time of my life here and it would also mean failing and giving up and something else. which leaves one option - either selling or loaning bloss out. and yet again just thinking about it has made the tears start again.
it isnt fair on blossom - i havnt been spending as much time with her just brushing her and cuddling her as she deserves never mind actually riding her and doing things with her. i cant afford this months bills (wormer feet vaccinations hay and livery) and cant ask my parents as they have about as much money as me. i cant work more as that would mean i would never be able to see her at all and again that really wouldnt be fair on her at all. i was goingt o bring her to college but when i realistically think about how much money i have to save before christmas as well as paying all my other bills i really dont think that it is going to be at all possible.
i have asked the person that we got her from if she would be interested in loaning her and i would be able to see her during holidays and weekends if i have the day off work. i really dont want to sell her as i love her so much (here come the tears again) but i dont know if i would be able to bear knowing thati still woudlnt see her that often and someone i know would be the one looking after her and riding her full time. i would be able to deal with it if she was here at college on working livery as i would still be able to keep an eye on her and make sure that she was completely happy.
i love my blossie babes to bits and i just want the best for her, i dont know how to give her it but i know that it isnt the best thing for her the way that things are now.
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Post by Steph on Nov 6, 2008 1:05:26 GMT
It's a hard decision hun, but only you can know how you can split your time and money best. If shes loaned to someone she knows then hopefully she would settle well, but if you could get working livery and have her with you then that sounds like a good option. Hope it goes well and loads of hugs xxx
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Post by Becca on Nov 6, 2008 9:53:06 GMT
Other people may have had different experiences but i do regret taking bernie to college with me. Yes it got him fit but because he was difficult to work in a proper outline outline he just developed the muscles he liked to use not the ones he should have. Also because he is a 'weight carrier' he had a very heavy novice dumped on his back banging around all over the place, and when i said i didn't want her riding him any more i was told he was the only horse she could ride! (ok he is a weight carrier but not that much)
anyway, would i do it again? maybe at a different college but not there.
At the end of the day like you said you want to do the best you can for blossom, i wasn't brave enough to do a loan so i went down the sharer route. Just remember a loan isn't forever, and if you organise it that you can visit every now and again you can keep an eye on her. The only problem being if you want to take her back or they want to stop loaning would you have somewhere to put her?
)))))))))))))))))))))) big hugs ((((((((((((((((((((((((((
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Post by Jen on Nov 6, 2008 11:21:45 GMT
i honestly dont know what to do. i was working out all the financial stuff this morning, if i leave college and work full time mainly nights i will have the time and lots of money for her, if i quit work i would have £6 a month to spare and if i did loan out blossom then she would be happy and recieving the attention that she deserves but i dont think that i would be happpy.
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Post by kitcat on Nov 6, 2008 11:51:20 GMT
Big hugs Snotty, unfortunately no one can make this decision for you, we can only support you in what you choose to do. Just don't rush into anything that you might regret later.
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Post by scattymare on Nov 6, 2008 12:55:13 GMT
What about a sharer? That way you get some financial contribution to her keep, Bloss gets time spent with her and you still get to see her and ride her whenever you want, but safe in the knowledge that if you can't get to her someone else will?
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Post by Jen on Nov 6, 2008 22:31:58 GMT
like i said i sent this friend of ours an email (we got blossom from her brother in law and it was ruths idea that we get blossom) asking if se would like to loan bloss from me whilst i am at college, well ive spent all day desperatly checking my emails and crying (just ask dotty) anyway - RUTH AGREED!!!!! my baby is going to scarborough for a bit whilst i sort stuff out and will receive 10* care from a wonderful family whilst living pretty much next door to where she lived when we bought her!!! she will hopefully be going over there in a couple of weeks when the vet has been to do her jabs.
im really releived and it is a huge weight off my shoulders but i am really upset as well coz i wont just be able to potter up the village and see her and go for a relaxing hack whenever i feel like it and have the time to do so when im at home.
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Post by dannyboy on Nov 6, 2008 22:51:01 GMT
We all do things we don't particular want to Snotty and it must be very difficult for you - I think you are being very grown up about this whole situation. I know it's sad but you couldn't ask for any better than a 10*home. Big hugs & try and make the most of the time you have left - make it really special. xxx
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Post by cazza on Nov 7, 2008 9:37:01 GMT
sorry to hear your bad news chick, just think its not 4ever and you know the girl.
so now you could put a kitty aside and save and when you get her back spoil her rotten hee hee hope your ok we are all here 4 u
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Post by spotti on Nov 7, 2008 10:52:05 GMT
That sounds like a good idea Cazza - that way when Bloss does come back (will she be back for the summer?) then you can spoil her rotten and buy her all nice shiny new things and she'll love you forever!! (not that she won't do that anyway...) I'm really glad you've got her sorted out, and to be going back to somewhere she already knows will be a weight off her shoulders aswell. I'm sure she'll settle back in really quickly and you could always go and visit when you have the time off. Just something I would demand (if it was me) is pictures and lots of them! That way you can still see your hairy baby and know what she's up to and how she's getting on  I know its got to be hard letting her go, but its not forever and she'll be going somewhere she knows and is happy, and a 10* home...I don't think you get much better than that!!! |
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Post by Becca on Nov 7, 2008 11:08:51 GMT
YAY!!!! so glad you got this sorted!! and the fact you know them you wont feel so silly ringing up to "speak" to blossy
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Post by racaille on Nov 7, 2008 11:14:24 GMT
Great result! Big smiles all round ;D ;D ;D
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Post by Jen on Nov 7, 2008 13:55:59 GMT
YAY!!!! so glad you got this sorted!! and the fact you know them you wont feel so silly ringing up to "speak" to blossy have already warned ruth that i will be ringing every night for at least the first week to see how the ponio is getting on - her reply was she will just stick her phone in the stable with bloss!!!!! ruths husband saw the email first and was like yeah you can have blossom, swiftly followed by (as in it was in the same breath) how much do you want so you can spoil her rotten?!!!! |
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Post by Jen on Nov 7, 2008 13:57:05 GMT
sorry to hear your bad news chick, just think its not 4ever and you know the girl. so now you could put a kitty aside and save and when you get her back spoil her rotten hee hee hope your ok we are all here 4 u hehehe was going to do this - when im at college i cant spend anyway so i dont think it will be a problem. |
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Post by Steph on Nov 9, 2008 14:02:44 GMT
Glad you've managed to get it sorted and college really isnt forever and think of all the nice long holidays you get to treat her like royalty! x
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Post by jane on Nov 9, 2008 15:22:36 GMT
Hi Snotty - aw big hugs, I just read this thread with tears in my eyes, but I am so glad for you, It really sounds like you are doing the best thing, you know how loved and looked after Bloss will be...
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Post by kitcat on Nov 10, 2008 9:12:14 GMT
I'm so pleased that you've got things sorted. I think you are doing the best thing for both you and Bloss. Now you can relax again.
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Post by Blonde Donkey on Nov 10, 2008 13:13:16 GMT
and blossies not gonna be too far from me so me and jen will have to have a meet up!
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Post by ceej on Nov 10, 2008 22:15:33 GMT
Sounds like the best plan...I know its hard, but you cant give up college - you woudl regret it forever...she'll be absolutely fine...
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Post by Jen on Nov 11, 2008 13:25:28 GMT
i know she will be fine and all that but im going to miss her so so so much. my sunday mornings are going to be so different to how they have been in the last 2 and a half/3 years. and it has already been made clear that piccies are a neccessity(sp?)
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Post by spotti on Nov 11, 2008 18:46:43 GMT
And Dotty - you and Jen need to meet up? Don't you see enough of eachother at college already??  |
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Post by Jen on Nov 11, 2008 18:59:29 GMT
ahh but if we met up in dottys home town we would both have a gee gee with us  |
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Post by spotti on Nov 11, 2008 19:53:23 GMT
Ooooh yeah!!!! Can I come?
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Post by Blonde Donkey on Nov 11, 2008 19:56:29 GMT
yea!
but you have bring
neddy
camera
choclate
that is all compulsary
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Post by spotti on Nov 11, 2008 19:57:25 GMT
That I can do, although she may be more interested in seeing Savs and Bloss than actually behaving herself...
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